How to Change ANY Behavior, Feeling or Habit Yourself or in Anybody Else

by on August 29, 2017

You and I know that the Bible is the ultimate book for changing human behavior. We all know people who’ve experience incredible changes in their lives, often overnight, and they credit it to the power of God working through the Bible.

Then, there are people who experience transformation in one or two areas of their lives, but have other areas where change just doesn’t seem to happen. Or, have you ever known someone who had been a Believer for years, and meeting or revival and suddenly, their problem was taken care of? And, unfortunately for YOU, the revival is over and the evangelist or guest speaker is halfway across the country by now, so you’re going to have to wait until next year when they come back to town again.

NOT NECESSARILY. First of all, dramatic, transformational experiences DO happen. And, they work. People who have struggled for years with addictions, self-sabotaging emotional patterns and unpredictable mood swings HAVE been changed PERMANENTLY, and instantaneously. As a matter of fact, ALL change is instantaneous – it’s the getting READY to change that takes weeks, months or even years.

To make dramatic lasting changes in your life, there are just SIX steps, simple ones that you need to follow. It doesn’t matter if it’s smoking that you want to stop, drinking, drug use, or something as simple (but annoying) as a “bad temper” or depression, worry or anxiety. Maybe overeating is something that has a grip on you, and YOU need to get a grip on IT. Or you want to stop cussing. You want to break free from an addiction to pornography. Or money.

Taking these six steps will ABSOLUTELY transform ANY behavior that you want to be rid of. It even works for dealing with painful memories and bad attitudes. You can also use them to “trigger” changes in other people. Your kids. Your spouse. Even your boss.

These 6 steps are all found in your Bible. (They’re also being taught and used by some of the top “people helpers” in the world to rid people of bad habits, and self-defeating habits.) You can find them in essence in the writings of Moses. Jesus taught them and demonstrated them. So did the apostles. That’s why people in Bible days were being so radically transformed…and effective for God. Why they weren’t victims of their past hurts and failures; why they weren’t “held hostage” by such nuisances as being overly sensitive, bad tempered, self-pitying…or addicted to overrating, immorality and drug or alcohol use.

You say, “Steve, it was because they all got miraculous deliverance by the power of the Holy Ghost! I just can’t seem to GET the miracle I need.” What they got WAS miraculous that God put it into your mind and spirit to be ABLE to be transformed “in a moment, in the twinkling of an eye.” And, it’s miraculous that this power is the INSIDE of you and can be drawn upon by you at ANY time, once you understand HOW to do it.

The FIRST step to total change is simple, just like the other five. It’s simply this: DECIDE WHAT YOU WANT TO BE LIKE AND ALSO WHAT’S KEEPING YOU FROM BEING THAT WAY. Most people can tell you what they DON’T want to be like. They can tell you what they DON’T want to happen. They can tell you WHO they don’t want to be like. They can tell you how they don’t want to ACT. But, that WON’T bring the changes you want.

You can spend all day thinking, “I don’t want to be overweight. I don’t want to keep being depressed. I don’t want to smoke anymore.” And the changes will NEVER come. Why not? THERE’S A BIBLE PRINCIPLE THAT WE GET CHANGED OR INFLUENCED BY WHATEVER WE FOCUS ON, OR THINK ON. “If we focus on what we DON’T want, we’ll still get MORE of it.

So, the FIRST step is to DECIDE WHAT YOU DO WANT. That way, you have something to move toward. The more specific you can be, the more complete your change will be. Instead of, “I don’t want to be so overweight,” try, “I want to adjust my eating habits so I can shed 20 pounds.”

Then, once you KNOW what you want, what’s preventing you from having it? What’s stopping you from making the change? Usually, it’s as simple as this: We associate more pain and disappointment from MAKING the change than we do from staying the way we are. We don’t like to smoke, but the pain and frustration of QUITTING seems to outweigh the pain of continuing to smoke. So, we keep on smoking and keep feeling like we should desire for it. That CAN happen. You’ll learn how to make it happen for you when you hear this message.

Most people already know they want to make some changes. The problem is that they just can’t get themselves to do it. Change usually isn’t a question of whether or not we’re ABLE, but it’s ALWAYS a question of NOTIVATION. Of not wanting to change BADLY enough, or not wanting to change NOW. If a lunatic held a gun to your head and told you that if you a) lit another cigarette b) overate c) lost your temper and let out with a bunch of cuss words or d) whatever it is that YOU do, that he would blow your head off – You could probably find a way to change your habits REAL quick. The difference? Motivation!

You’ll learn HOW to “stir up” the missing ingredient for bringing about the change you want. Most of us want to change either the way we’re feeling or how we behave in some area. You’ll know SPECIFICALLY HOW to do it, when you experience this message. In fact, it no longer will be a matter of if you CAN do it but whether you WILL do it… (And, you’ll learn how to ENJOY changing, and feel GOOD about doing it!)

It takes more than knowing we SHOULD change. If you’ve tried lots of times to free yourself from such behavioral nuisances as drugs, smoking, drinking, cussing, overeating or emotional patterns like depression, anger, feeling fearful or worrying or just feeling inadequate – and you’ve failed to make the change, it simply means that there weren’t enough reasons for you to change.

I’ll HELP you to discover the REASONS to change…the kinds of reasons that will help you to change in a minute what you’ve failed to change for years. (It’s a method that God uses with people from the book of Genesis to Revelation in the Bible. He uses it because it’s the most powerful tool for bringing INSTANTANEOUS change in people. He designed us this way.)

You’ll learn the ultimate key to changing not only yourself, but OTHER people in your life. Now you’ll know how to trigger changes in your friends, kids and loved ones, EVEN if they AREN’T Christians.

You’ll also get to understand clearly why you can WANT to change a behavior or emotional pattern (Yes, you CAN control and CHOOSE your emotional states) but, NO MATTER HOW BADLY YOU WANT TO MAKE THE CHANGE, YOU KEEP GOING BACK TO YOUR OLD PATTERNS. There’s a SIMPLE dynamic at work. One that you can disengage in a matter of a few minutes.

These life-changing Bible principles AREN’T new. But, you WON’T find them you just casually read your Bible. And, they’re NECESSARY if you’re going to have any real and long lasting positive changes in your life. Some people just seem to “stumble” into these truths. (The kind of people who just happen to “find” a winning lottery ticket, and happen to inherit fortunes from long lost relatives.) But most of us aren’t like that. It comes a little harder. We have to either find it ourselves or get it from someone else, who HAS.


Pastor Steve Davis is the Lead Pastor of The Worship Center® Community Church. He is a lover of the Word of God and loves to help people learn the Word, apply it to their everyday lives and then rejoice with them as God's changes begin to happen in their lives! He grew up in Southern Maryland, studied for the ministry at Asbury College in in Wilmore, Kentucky. That is where he met his future wife, Linda. Steve and Linda have three grown kids - meaning three adult offspring - and have ministered with Operation Mobilization for four years, He has served as a Chaplain with local, state and Federal law enforcement agencies. The Worship Center grew from a home Bible study into the church it is today as the Lord sent people who wanted to have more of Jesus and more of the Word of God working in their lives. Pastor Steve says, "Few things make me happier than to find someone who wants to give their whole heart and life to the Lord, and who wants to follow Him wherever and however He leads them! The Lord is always searching for people like that, and so am I!"