Speaking Your Way to an Incredible Life Part 3: Negative In, Positive Out?

by on March 13, 2019

Jesus said, “The mouth speaks out of the fullness of the heart. (Matt. 12:34) “Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.” (Prov. 4:23) “So, since death and life are in the power of the tongue, we need to learn how to deal with the negative that’s all around us, which tries to fill our hearts and wreck our lives… (Prov. 18:21)


Psalms 40:8 “I delight to do thy will, O my God: Yea, thy law is within my heart. The joy in doing the will of God comes from having the Word in your heart. YOU I have put it there.

If you don’t put it in, it won’t be there. Read and carry your Bible on down time during the day and before bed at night. How to know if you’re reading it enough: If you don’t read and you feel bad. If you’re not reading and not bothered, you’re not reading it enough. At 1st, it takes discipline. You get tired, or down and don’t feel like it. Rule: No word – no faith. No faith, no growth. Get the habit of feeding on the Word and it becomes easy.

HEAR the Word. Your choice.

Romans 10:17, so then faith cometh by hearing and hearing by the word of God. Be in the services, record them, take notes, and listen to the podcast so you can hear it over and over again. Faith comes from “hearing and hearing the Word of God.” All leaders in the Body of Christ listen to teaching and preaching recordings. “Force feed” on them, and build your capacity. Have them at home, in the car, or at work. Listen to them!
LOOK IN YOUR MIRROR. Your Countenance.

“A merry heart maketh a cheerful countenance: but by sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken.” (Prov. 15:13)

Look positive! Happy! Victorious! Pleasant! Be aware what your face is doing…and saying to other people about what’s going on inside.

All emotional states a “look”. On the face, body, walk, gestures. Look victorious and like an overcomer who is thrilled with the blessing of God. Same with voice. Not just the words, the tonality, energy, of a happy, blessed victorious winner! Some sound like just lost their last friend. Check our phone voice. That’s all they have to go by. “Bracket” our spirit man with the face, body language and voice of a person where everything is working together for our good!

Remember the “inner ear” principle that directs our inner man!


“I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing: therefore choose life, that both thou and thy seed may live:
Make the choice to be positive, victorious, unbothered. “Little people” are always upset that nothing’s going their way.

Negativity equals, problem and lack oriented. “WE CAN’T”

Positivity equals, Solution and Supply oriented. “HERE’S HOW WE CAN”

Most people who seem done and defeated don’t choose that. It’s just a poor self image. Work on self-image through the promises of the Word. “I am what God says I am. I can do what God says I can do. I can be what God says I can be. I can have what God says I can have.”

“He’s already decided that. So, if it is to be it is up to me.” Period.


2 Corinthians 6:17, Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you.

Fellowshipping with Believers neutralizes a lot of negativity. Hang around “can-do” Believers. “I can-do all things through Christ believers. Drop negative associates who don’t want to believe and change. Even most of your friends who’ll come to church with you are initially negative. Learn to neutralize it. Let them know you will be their friend – but that you are staying positive, doing right and will not go the old way with them.

By you being who and what you are in Christ, and them being with you and other spiritual people, they will adapt and grow. Don’t respond to negative with negative.


Proverbs 29:25, “The fear of man bringeth a snare: but who so putteth his trust in the Lord shall be safe.”

The Holy Spirit will deliver you from worrying about what other people think all the time. Especially family and close friends. You told them you’re in church now, you’re going to be different. Because they love you, they’re keeping an eye on you to see how you’re progressing. I have problems worrying about me. I can’t worry about the opinions of people who aren’t making it and who don’t want me to really serve God.

Focus on your own attitudes and your relationships with the Lord.


2 Timothy 3:12, “Yea, and all that will live godly in Christ Jesus shall suffer persecution.

When they persecute you and mock you, learn to smile and be quiet. Don’t fight back, argue or yell. Smile. They can’t fight a pleasant and quiet spirit who won’t fight. If the same people are hammering and hammering you over and over again, it’s because they think they’re getting to you.

Develop that Holy Spirit thick skin, so they can’t cut you with their tongue. Keep moving on! They’ll quit hassling you when the changes come in your life and stay: They don’t want to tell their unbelieving friends how much God is blessing you. Be strong, tough it out and you will be victorious!


Prov. 27:17, “Iron sharpeneth iron; so man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend. What you get from a positive friendship is support, counsel and inner strength. It “sharpens your countenance”, it shows on your face.

Find someone of the same gender you can get hold of when you’re going through challenges; one you can draw strength from. Call them as much as you feel the need for or the want. That’s what a friend is about. You don’t HAVE to call, you WANT to call. If your friend gives you room to make mistakes, and you give them room to make mistakes – but you strengthen each other.


Romans 14:13, Let us not therefore judge one another anymore, but judge this rather, that no man put a stumbling block or an occasion to fall in his brother’s way.

Truly Spirit-filled Believers won’t judge you or condemn you – they may CORRECT you in love, and WARN you, but there is always the positive. Some have family members trying to pull you out of the church. They keep picking away at you, trying to steal your faith, your calling and your Christian friends at church.

They try to make you feel guilty about being here: “We get so lonely with you being at church so much. We MISS you.” But they refuse to come with you! Your family is privileged to have someone who is spiritually minded and who is praying for them!

The greatest experience on earth is for a human being to get saved, to grow and to become what God made you to be. Don’t let anyone take that away from you.




Pastor Steve Davis is the Lead Pastor of The Worship Center® Community Church. He is a lover of the Word of God and loves to help people learn the Word, apply it to their everyday lives and then rejoice with them as God's changes begin to happen in their lives! He grew up in Southern Maryland, studied for the ministry at Asbury College in in Wilmore, Kentucky. That is where he met his future wife, Linda. Steve and Linda have three grown kids - meaning three adult offspring - and have ministered with Operation Mobilization for four years, He has served as a Chaplain with local, state and Federal law enforcement agencies. The Worship Center grew from a home Bible study into the church it is today as the Lord sent people who wanted to have more of Jesus and more of the Word of God working in their lives. Pastor Steve says, "Few things make me happier than to find someone who wants to give their whole heart and life to the Lord, and who wants to follow Him wherever and however He leads them! The Lord is always searching for people like that, and so am I!"